Fix anything

1: To fix a feeling, you change your thoughts, to alter your perspective, into feeling a different way.

2: Forgiveness, not thinking that something that was done to you was right, but letting go of it and accepting what had happened.

3: Focus on the positive aspect of things, as everything has good and bad sides to it. What you focus on grows. If you are focused on the negative, you will miss the positive as if it was never there, which will create delusions.

4: Be in the present moment, don’t remain in past memories or assuming future scenarios. This will create fear and regret.

5: Challenging yourself to do something rather than dreading it.

6: Express yourself creatively, letting out your feelings and thoughts in a positive way.

7: Don’t fear change or the unknown, by welcoming it and not assuming things based on what you already know or have experienced.

8: observe rather than judge, and don't expect things to happen based on what you already know, as no one knows even half of everything.

9: Be gentle on yourself and be on your side, rather than attacking yourself as self sabotage helps no one.

10: Work now to enjoy later, as will smith once said “You don’t set out to build a wall. You don’t say ‘I’m going to build the biggest, baddest, greatest wall that’s ever been built.’ You don’t start there. You say, ‘I’m going to lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid. You do that every single day. And soon you have a wall.”

11: Don’t give up and accept defeat, if you can be knocked down, you can get back up, as long as you keep trying you will succeed.

12: Don’t look external to fix you problems, look internally and fix yourself to fix what you experience.

13: Have a humorous view on things, convert negative energy into positive.

14: Don’t make decisions or act on things when you’re too emotional towards something, as it will cloud your judgment.

15: When someone’s arguing with you or scolding you, ignore them or laugh at them, as it will piss them off more than words ever could.

16: Let go of the past by knowing, you did the best you could with what you had at the time, and dwelling on it will change nothing. Decide to use your energy on something more productive and helpful.

17: Don’t worry so much on how others will see you as if you were living for an audience, this will stop you from making yourself feel better, and more focused on making them feel a certain way. It’ll stop you from being who you want to be and do what you feel is right, as you’re too focused on praise and approval. No one cares as much as you do about it, and if they don't like who you really are, why would you want them to be in your life to begin with? Don’t sabotage yourself like that, as long as you love or like yourself, what they think about it doesn’t matter. Practice makes perfect. As soon as you are seen by them in a negative way, it will control your life and it's downhill from there.

18: Self love begins with self care, everyone is capable with self love, but you have to focus more on what you do right rather than what you do wrong, and things you want to change about yourself.

19: Be open to all possibilities, rather than fixated on one scenario due to fear or desire.

20: Small goals, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Focus on what is bothering you in this current moment, and don’t be fixated on the end result.

21: Guilt is a prison. If you have changed or are improving that aspect of yourself, you deserve forgiveness and that is worthy of letting it go. The past can’t be changed and all that matters is the present moment.

22: Treat others as you want to be treated, and treat yourself as you would treat another person you are trying to comfort and help. 

23: You can’t be lonely if you enjoy your own company and love/like yourself, work on your relationship with yourself before you do with others.

24: solitude is important for growth and change, as you need to focus your energy on yourself and look within to reflect and solve your problems. It is also a break from all your external issues.

25: You can love someone else without loving yourself, but you shouldn’t. Everyone needs love and if you are not getting it from yourself, you will be dependent on someone else for it and when that's gone, it will feel as though you have lost a major part of yourself, leaving you 10x more depressed, and you will suffer greatly. Focus on loving yourself rather than looking externally for it, then one day you’ll realize you didn’t need someone to love you all along.

26: Become self reliant, you can always count on yourself, and with the right amount of effort and consistency, you will become successfully independent.

27: Don’t resist or push down negative emotions, allow it to be there as resistance makes things grow stronger. Allowing it to be there will make it go away more quickly, and makes it much easier to deal with, and to get used to. It’ll also make it not nearly as big of an issue, and will be less painful.

28: Trust in yourself and the universe, you are capable, and you can do it, if you believe it and you never stop trying. 

29: Do for others what was not done for yourself, never become what you hate and never be like the ones who have hurt you. Use that pain to make sure no one will ever be treated like that from you. This will feed your inner child which should always be kept alive.

30: What you give out is what you get back, karma is either your best friend or a major bitch, but only if you were in the first place.

31: Don’t be selfish but make sure you have what you need as well, you cannot give to others what you do not have for yourself. But giving in some instances can make you feel better, as long as it’s not in an overly indulging type of way.

32: Always have boundaries, this doesn’t mean putting up walls, but if something crosses that line kick them out. Always defend yourself if they go too far, never let them get away with crossing you.

33: Everyone needs a sense of freedom and space in some way. If you are feeling trapped that is a sign to leave the circumstance that doesn't serve you.

34: Always be yourself, if you are fake then you will not attract what really fuels and feeds your soul, you will never be happy, and you will not grow. You will only attract those who like your image over you. 

35: What is meant for you will always be for you. Don’t force anything, if it's truly meant to be in your life it 100% will be.

36: Never give up your self worth and respect for anyone else ever. You are betraying yourself and enabling their behavior.

37: If someone doesn’t like you, fuck em, not everyone connects or likes someone else. This doesn’t make their something wrong with you, somethings just don’t go together. Ice cream is great, and so is mayo, but together it's nasty.

38: It;s okay to ask for help, sometimes you don’t have enough energy or the right answers. This doesn’t mean be dependent at all times but everyone needs it at some point.

39: Strength isn’t repressing or rejecting emotions, that's a bitch move. Instead strength is tolerance and the way you handle those emotions, stop acting like you need to be sociopathic to be cool. You care too much about what others think and that's self sabotage my friend. This is why men die from heart attacks in their early 50’s.

40: Always think of the ways you are grateful for things, and things you are proud of (or do something that makes you feel proud of yourself), if you are feeling low this will help a lot. 

41: If people hate you out of nowhere, if you’ve never hurt them in any way. They are either jealous of you, or you remind them of someone who has hurt them deeply in some way. 

42: Patience is the key to lasting longer, being able to endure something difficult and hold on longer before losing your shit, especially when it’s important not to. At most times you won’t lose your shit, if you keep patient long enough.